As we journey together to a joyful and fulfilling life, let’s look at “Focus as another key element on this journey.
It may seem common but, indeed, our “Focus” can work either ‘For’ us or ‘Against’ us. The deciding factor here has always been one of the greatest gifts we all have been given: Choice!
Realistically, what we choose to focus on tends to consume most of our attention as it eventually expands. Our focus occupies our thoughts.
Here are 3 ways to use your focus for uplifting thoughts:
- Today’s Focus: Use today to make uplifting memories because they will live on forever. choose to focus on the present moment. Today is your “Experiencing moment.” Live in this moment. Unleash joy in it. Celebrate it. Make it memorable. Today is always the most important day that we get. We sometimes suck the joy out of today especially when we use it to wallow in regrets and frustrations about yesterday’s experience. Also, when we use it to increase our worries and fears about tomorrow’s expectations.
- Yesterday’s Focus: Use yesterday’s life circumstances to learn, forgive, inspire, heal, and uplift. Yesterday was your “Remembering moment.” Look for the good memories and celebrate them. Learn from those lessons.
- Tomorrow’s Focus: Use your tomorrow’s thoughts for flexibility and growth. Allow your worries, fears, and limiting beliefs to stay small while your hope, faith, courage, and uplifting beliefs stay firm. Tomorrow is your “Expecting moment.” Set flexible expectations that are not too high and not too low. Embrace uplifting thoughts to replace limiting thoughts.
We could try to be as optimistic as we can, but it is good to accept the realities. In this universe, it’s like we are in a fight. Something could go wrong. We are going to encounter problems. Other things will go on well. Part of realistic living is to acknowledge and accept what is within our control and what is beyond our control. Always identify answers to What is stressing you out? Can you control it? What is most important to you, and what can you do about it? The goal is to focus better, worry less, and achieve more.
Sometimes, it helps to analyze situations first. Don’t just start stressing and worrying yourself. Here is a simple situational analysis I normally do. I call it the “Refocus, Worry Less, and Achieve More” principle:
So, is there a situation you are concerned about? Is it happening or about to happen? “Yes.” Is it within your control, and could you do something about it? “Yes.” Then, refocus your mind and thoughts. Worry less and take a step to do something about it. Next, you agree that it’s a situation, but it’s beyond your control. There is no help in worrying. You could pray about it and set healthy expectations. But don’t double your trouble by engaging in excessive worrying.
Certain things are just going to flow smoothly, and others are going to struggle to flow, right? Is it a situation that you are concerned about? “No.” Then no worries at all. Continue collecting the simple and ordinary things that make you happy. When things go wrong, and when we make mistakes, realize that all occupy the greatest room: The room for improvement. There is always a way to change things and to make life better.
Thank you. I am glad to be on this journey together with you. Please leave your comments below. I would love to hear your views and learn from you.